Thursday, November 14, 2013

Destiny waiting

(A post originally written on June 6 )
Yesterday was a date with destiny and it was one of those moments again that took my breath away.  I've been struggling through this journey called life and in this current season, I've been doing all I can to juggle everything I have to steward - my work as a financial secretary here at Cornerstone Fellowship, my volunteer commitments at my home church - Mililani Fil-Am Baptist & my secretarial duties of the Filipino Southern Baptist Fellowship of the Pacific.  Then my duties at home - which have absolutely taken a back seat and finally my role as wife & mom.

I'm at this point where I realize something very important.  I read a facebook post from a facebook friend stating that she needed to take time away in order to put her full energy into the final launch of her children. Matter of fact this past week- I had a breath taking moment - where I realized how very little time I have left before Juli heads off to college.  I know I need this time in this coming year to put that same energy into her launch as well and for Jayson's launch into the academy.  This is such a critical moment in his life & I know I need to be there for him.  It's my call as their mom & it's my priority so I know God has been working on my heart to move on from Cornerstone for a reason.  My date to move on is July 26.

I've been encouraged by this quote I found on another friend's facebook page.
God put your eyes in front of your head for a reason. Now stop looking back.  Philippians 3:13
Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended; but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before, I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.  Philippians 3:13-14

I know this is going to be my guiding scripture in this season as I launch out into my WFG business full-time. I'm setting some goals & then putting in the work to make them happen.  I'm excited & so many others have expressed excitement for me as well.  I'm looking forward to the launch & to this upcoming WFG convention in Las Vegas-  It's going to be amazing.


Stuff about my daughter you & I need to know

We just found out some great news for my daughter that's a major answer to prayer. She has just applied for & found out that she received the Summer Expanding Horizons Scholarship from Punahou School which she is going to use for a West Coast College Tour to help her decide where she wants to attend for college.  She already knows that she wants to be on the West Coast although her college counselor made the suggestion that she consider colleges in the Great Lakes region as well since she likes the laid back, friendly lifestyle here in Hawaii.
This tour is sponsored by College Campus Tours
http://www.collegecampustours.com/index.html

  • Student led campus tours
  • Classroom visits
  • Admissions group sessions
  • Dormitory life
  • Discussions with professors
  • Interaction with students
Now, since I'm catching up on all the drafts I've started on this blog but not posted, Juli went on the tour this summer and visited 25 schools.  At this point in time, she's interested in attending the University of Hawaii at Manoa, Loyola Marymount University, Seattle Pacific University (they've got a scholarship if your parents have worked in a church - which I did for over 10 years), Seattle University, University of San Francisco, University of Redlands, and Santa Clara.  I'm praying she gets a chance & has the financing in place for her to live her dreams.  This is going to require much from me & Mario as we prepare but I know that as my children's mom, I'm here to help serve them so that they can be all God has for them to be and so grateful for that opportunity.

Catching up on on a couple months of blogging drafts: Treat Me To A Feast: Notes from My Abundant Life: Not a dream deferred, just one long in coming...

OK, so it's been a while since I've posted anything to my blog since I've been pretty crazy busy with life.  I'm gonna be catching up, posting & publishing a bunch of drafts that I'll be polishing up for all you readers out there who might be remotely interested in these thoughts I'm sharing.

This first post (since my last post many weeks ago) was inspired by another blog entry I ran across:
Treat Me To A Feast: Notes from My Abundant Life: Not a dream deferred, just one long in coming...: For the revelation awaits an appointed time; it speaks of the end and will not prove false. Though it linger, wait for it ...

I've really felt God had it in mind for me at the exact time I ran into it.  I woke up with a deep desire & need to do some more soul-searching.  I have been seeking God for what it is He wants for me.  I have dreams to do something amazing & great but I've been praying for wisdom as well in the mean time.  It "kills" me though because wisdom generally means stepping back, taking a look, & seeing the foolishness of the actions that could be taken & so choose not to follow that path because it might lead to some consequences that I'd rather not experience.  I'm not one who would actually be so cautious and so in the past, I've been less concerned about making mistakes.  But I realize that the failures & mistakes have so many more implications on not only me but also my family.  I wonder about whether I should throw caution to the wind & if God would allow me more favor than I could ever imagine.  Or do I need to be more cautious & wise because I do have a family to take care of.  Lately, I've found myself verbalizing that I don't worry about the steps of faith I've been planning to make because  based on my own experience, when God calls you to something - He always gives you the grace to handle what comes your way.      

Recently, this faith journey of mine has brought me into some really uncomfortable places in life where I would never imagine I'd ever be.  I have a dream of being very prosperous.  And when I say very, I mean extremely prosperous.  But in the process of getting there & in terms of our finances, standards, & convictions, I'm way out of my comfort zone.  I loved being in control of my finances before I ever had children. Not only my own finances, but the finances of my hubby.  Once I had my children though, I lost all sense of what I would call reasonableness.  I've always wanted to give my children whatever they ask for - just like my own mom did when I was growing up, but my better sense & mentorship from so many around me has allowed me to teach my own kids some lessons in the mean time.  If they want something, I'll usually ask if they have any money to get it.   Thankfully they don't complain a whole lot if they don't.  They basically just deal with it if they don't have the funds or they wait until they can either make some money or get some money from the gracious family & friends that choose to share with them.  Just recently, I've decided that as soon as Mario & I can, I want to start giving them a regular allowance.  I never got an allowance growing up, but I see the value of it now.  Also, I've found myself telling my kids that they should find a way to make some extra money & not let a temporary lack drive them away from trying to get what they want.   A little initiative & some brainstorming & I'm sure they could do something to get the needed funds for their needs & even some wants.

In terms of standards & convictions, I haven't in the past really put things down in writing.  But given the fact that I'm looking to build a business of my own, there are many values or standards that I want to be sure I've got in writing so I can look back & determine whether I'm out of line with what I believe needs to be a guiding conviction.  

Love you all because I know I'm loved with the awesome love of God & so I just gotta share it.

Thoughts of having a daughter & what to do to surprise her...

OK, so we have had an interesting couple of days with us not having electricity at home.  We've had to go over to my parents to have the kids do their homework & then slept over, got up at 4 AM & head to McD's to pick up some breakfast.  Juli got the McGriddle meal, Jayson - his favorite - 2 hash browns, & Mario & I got the Steak & Egg burritos - my new favorite.  It's not only yummy & spicy - just the right amount of spicy - but also filling & most of all - cheap.  Just $1.69 each.  Thank God we have our parents who are so wonderful.

But getting back to what to do to surprise my daughter - I will need to be sure to make her some chocolate chip cookies with whipped cream & sliced strawberries.  I know that's something she likes.  I think one day, she'll probably wish she'd have kept up a little more with what her mom is doing.  I love that girl - she's got a heart of gold and is so smart, sensitive, a born leader, & destined for greatness.

Haku Lei

The beginnings of a beautiful creation...

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The funny thing about technology...

Today's observation of contemporary society's humorous - although somewhat ridiculous – usage of modern day technology is illustrated by a situation we experienced in my own family.  For the second time today, my daughter called me on her cell phone from her bedroom as I was in the living room. The first time she asked me a question. The second time, she asked me to get her a pog (passion orange guava juice). And I actually answered the phone both times knowing she was just in the other room. I even brought her the juice the second time. Just goes to show me that the comment she made to me earlier today that we have raised a couple of spoiled children may actually be somewhat - although admittedly difficult to say - TRUE... 

On a positive note, at least she realizes it :) And I'm thankful that we do have the things that we do - like cell phones that give us the ability to stay in touch with family & friends, both near & far - UNLIMITEDLY.  In any case although modern technology has made things easier for us to stay in touch, I'm not so sure the unintended consequences of it replacing the face to face contact & communication that families should normally have in their home was expected by the inventors & users of cell & smart phones.  It's something that makes me think twice about what I need to take into consideration when establishing my own priorities for my family.

I think I'll have to make it a point to be proactive in engaging and encouraging my children to get up & talk with me & Mario - one on one, face to face.  I surely don't want them losing out on that all important skill development opportunity, in light of the fact that they must also they learn how to effectively utilize technology in order to effectively engage with others in this day & age.  Somehow, that delicate balance must be maintained.  I just hope I have enough wisdom to know how to guide them in that.


5 Ways to Ring in Read Across America Day at Home | Parents | Scholastic.com

Just wanted to share this link to something I found interesting this day:

5 Ways to Ring in Read Across America Day at Home | Parents | Scholastic.com


My Monday - the first day after carnival weekend

I've realized the reason I've had a need to start this blog & I discovered it the moment I read another blog post from Michael Nichols Grow on Purpose from Feb. 13, 2012.  Oh man, if I ever found something that I could so relate to, it has to be this blog post.

I've needed an outlet for all the thoughts that go swirling around in my head and a venue to gain clarity.  In my opinion & in agreement with what Michael Nichols states on his blog, it is definitely one of the best ways to do that because it places a natural accountability on what goes on in this extremely smart (at least that's what my mom & dad always told me), mostly thoughtful, rarely foolish, but not always expressive mind of mine.

I've also bought the study "The Circle Maker" by Mark Batterson.  In it, he says the following:
Find a time, find a place to pray everyday for 21 days.  6 AM or 10 PM.  A prayer appointment with God for 10, or 15, or 30 minutes.  I will circle a promise from God in prayer.

Ask God for discernment - a problem I can't seem to overcome.

Does that mean God will give you an answer in 21 days?  The goal is to establish a prayer habit.  Now, I've had an established prayer habit in the past - way before we started having children & Mario & I also had an established time of prayer before Julianne was born because while I was pregnant with her, an ultrasound showed that shed had a growth in her kidney.  So, in terms of intentional prayer, it's something that I need to go back to.

I know that critical thinking is one of the most important traits for my children to develop but for which they haven't had much success at, particularly my son.  So in order for them to have an example to follow from one of the people in their lives that cares the most for them, I figured I would post my own blog with an example of what critical thinking looks like through posts of my own thoughts.

This also gives me the opportunity to "process what I'm thinking" and the growth I've gone through as I've experienced life to the full.  I want to be healthy mentally & emotionally

My dad's favorite disco music that he played all the time while I was growing up made a permanent mark in my dna.  There's a reason why I lean towards fresh, booty grooving, soulful music.  It's just a part of who I am.  But I grew up in a Christian school where we were literally banned from listening to Rock music.  We even had to sign a contract stating that we would not listen to it.  Boy, I'm sure that's caused a bunch of cognitive dissonance even now, knowing how much "dancing was being disobedient to God" but how darn much I currently enjoy getting my groove on.

What's even causing me more cognitive dissonance is how much I want to be in control of things & how much I can't be in the position that I'm in as the Financial Secretary for a church - more so a congregational church which is led by a council.  I'm too much of a leader to be able to continue to thrive in this kind of environment.  It's killing my soul & my spirit.  I think it's time for me to make the move, to set the budget & get my awesome self out there ready to help people who want to move forward, get out of mediocrity, & be the best selves they were created to be.

I am definitely not the "government" worker type.  I've found I'm way too ambitious.  Maybe even ADHD like for people to be able to handle someone who's a "scanner" just like me.  But I've found others who are just like me.  So I've got to hang with them so I can be who I was made to be. Time to move on & get my soul stirred into action.  I've learned to value myself & my own opinions so much more now that I know I just can't please everyone.  Thank God, I'm finally learning this.

I will keep on smiling, because I know I'm beautiful!

My imagination is my preview of life's coming attractions!  I am absolutely thrilled with this thought!

God, I ask that you help me set my internal money thermostat so that I can have millions to be able to use for our family's lifestyle & to be able to give.


My KISS Nails in Baby Doll

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2013 Punahou Carnival

The last week of January - well it was another busy, breath-taking one.  It was pre-carnival week so that meant the Punahou School campus was abuzz with activity.  Julianne's Junior class was in charge of the Carnival & she was one of the booth chairs for the Haku Lei booth - a perfect fit for her creative abilities.  During the pre-Carnival week, both Julianne & I were busy with preparations.  The Haku Lei volunteers were preparing the materials to make the Haku Lei with & Juli did so well in her leadership position.  I'm so proud of how much she has grown as a young lady.
Julianne starting her haku lei

I helped co-chair the White Elephant Housewares booth.  We had some great divisions heads - Lisa, Dana, Vince, Connie, & Jean; booth chairs - Michelle & Sean, Christine, Allene & Jay, Mieko, Trina, & Kinue - a wonderful Houseware co-chair with me; & student div heads & booth chairs - including Hannah & Jonas & Allyssa (those who I worked with the most) & so many others,  who put in so much work & effort throughout the year in preparing everything that was to be sold.  In addition to occasionally going to the tank to help with the sorting, pricing, & boxing housewares, my part was to make phone calls to some of the awesome volunteers who helped staff the White Elephant booth.  I looked forward to helping coordinate & run the booth on Friday & Saturday, Feb. 8 & 9.  The day went so well & everything really ran so smoothly.  Thanks to Kinue & the operations staff - we even got to have a reconfigured entrance to help with logistics during the crazy, busy opening shift & "staff lounge" to provide for a relaxing place for everyone to be able to chill, rest, & recuperate from the physically & mentally demanding 2 days of non-stop activity.  This amazing event & enterprise that Punahou School's junior class puts together in order to help provide Financial Aid to over 400 students is such a great cause to be a part of.  I'm glad I'm connected with this wonderful community.  Matter of fact, I've been attending or helping out with the Carnival ever since my husband, Mario started working at Punahou School over 24 years ago.  Since our children were old enough to walk & ever since they began attending Punahou (Jayson as a kindergartener & Julianne as a freshman) it's been a Gonzaga family tradition that my children, my husband, & I have had the awesome privilege to be a part of.  We started off attending the carnival buying lots & lots of stuff at the White Elephant booth, Books booth, Treasures, & others. We've spent many hours, even whole weekends, enjoying the games, riding rides (at least for the kids :)) & eating all the wonderful carnival food like malasadas, chicken plate, Hawaiian plate, nachos, smoothies, noodles, gyros, portuguese bean soup, taco salad, & who knows what else we stuffed ourselves with.  This year, Jayson got to be his independent self & spent time with his good friends - Prashanth, Colin, Karuna, & Neil.  Now, with Jayson being an eighth grader, Mario's annual work handling the parking, my participation & leadership as one of the White Elephant booth chairs & Julianne's participation & leadership as one of the Haku Lei Booth chairs & Junior Class (Class of 2014) member, our involvement has come full circle.

This was truly a memorable Carnival for our family.  And to top it off, Julianne was able to make some memories that, thankfully, were archived on video. Gotta love the usage of contemporary media that helps us never forget those precious moments.

You can find her featured in a few videos that Punavision put together:


Haku Lei Booth:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Si2D0lgyquo
Starting at 3:00, Julianne & the other Haku Lei booth chairs share about the preparations, types of lei available, pricing, & other interesting tidbits about the beautiful traditions surrounding the Haku Lei Booth.


Highlights from the Video Booth:
 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eKuhezUQL2E
You can find her at 1:46 along with the other Haku Lei booth chairs having a little fun.

Punahou Juniors Celebrate following a Successful 2013 Carnival:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k9qvl8q3HcI
To finish things off, the junior class got together to celebrate & sang "Better Together" by Jack Johnson.  And it's so true- We're so much better when we're together.  Julianne can be seen singing & celebrating at 2:05, 2:58, & 3:49.

There's so much more that can be said about these moments.
Ones that just take your breath away...

Lessons learned for this week

So, I've been deciding upon the fact that I will be making a very concerted effort to make additional money through the business I started years ago through World Financial Group.  I've made significant investments of time & money into building myself & learning as much as I can about the business & primarily about developing myself into the person I need to be in order to be successful.  My most recent lessons have been in the area of mindset.  I have heard it said over & over again from people that have been most successful in the business that you can change your life just by changing the way you think.

Another recent lesson I've learned is that people are either buying or they are selling.  This is so true.  If you don't have a specific plan in place, you will end up at the mercy of someone who tries to sell you something.

Wealth happens on purpose & so not having a plan for my money will lead to me losing it to someone who does have a particular financial plan.  I'm going to need to start keeping track of where my money is going & manage it on purpose.

I will have a business plan & a time frame.  I will prepare a budget.  I will pay off my credit cards.  I will decide how much I want to make & why.

Friday, March 1, 2013

Juli


Here's Julianne in her beautiful haku lei that she made for Carnival.


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Monday, February 4, 2013

Reminiscing about Friday, Jan 25

Today, it was a very busy day.  Not a tiring kind of busy.  Just a day of moments that took my breath away kind of busy.  Tonight, I went to Bible Study at Pastor's house.  It's always a great time because you can never know everything about the Bible.  I love hearing all the insights & questions that other people have about God's Word.

Friday, January 25, 2013

Starting up a blog for 2013

This is the first post for my new blog.  I've always enjoyed reading other people's blogs and have been a very avid Facebook user for several years now.  But I never found it necessary to start my own blog.  I think I'm jumping on the bandwagon at this point in time because I'm interested in finding ways to share my life, my thoughts and my ideas about the things I'm passionate about - outside of the regular facebook status updates & pinterest pins.

I must admit I've only recently started using Google + as another social media resource for me to find inspiration for my own life.  With all this exposure to the world outside myself, I've found there to be so many positive & beautiful expressions of life and all it has to offer.  The desire has been birthed within me to not only take the opportunity to connect with so many different people outside of my own daily existence.  I've also felt a natural transition into this blogging universe stemming from the need to share my thoughts & experiences with others who might also enjoy my daily journey.

It's a new year and a new season in my life where I've finally started to stop caring so much about what other people think about me. It's time- although some might consider me a late bloomer in this - to fully blossom into my own life with my husband, children, precious friends and family.

I've learned that life is way too short, since in just the past couple of years, I've seen my Pastor, two of my uncles, a friend's mother, many church friends, and others pass from this life.  And so I think it's important to truly live life expressed to it's fullest while I'm still alive and can actually still do that.

So, here's to a new season and a new expression of all that I was made to be, thanks to my Creator, Sustainer, and lover of my soul.  I'm ready to receive all that God made me to receive so I can continue to give to others from the overflow.  I'm ready for the abundant life God made me for.  Join with me on this journey for the best is yet to be!